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20.09.2024

Addicted to social media?

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3 minutes reading time
11-17 years
Communication
Safety
Social Media
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For hours Tiktok-videos, constantly posting something on Instagram or only post via Snapchat connecting with friends – do you sometimes get the impression that your child’s life takes place almost exclusively on social media?

Perhaps the question arises as to whether this is still “normal” use and at what point your child is already addicted. In this article, we take a closer look.

Young people and social media – can they be separated?

Young people have a close relationship with their smartphone. They use it for research, for schoolwork, but above all, of course, for communication. They use their smartphones to keep in touch with family and friends, stay up-to-date and position themselves in their peer group. To a large extent, this happens via social media. This is where they can show and present themselves, respond to each other and find like-minded people.

But despite all the fascination, social media also has its drawbacks. The successes that young people experience there in the form of likes and comments activate the reward system. The platforms’ psychological tricks capture our attention and are designed to make us spend more and more time online. In short, social media makes it extremely difficult for us to put our cell phones down. Young people in particular therefore often spend a lot of time on social media. So much so that parents are worried that it could be an addiction.

Much, more, too much – when does addiction begin?

“2.6 percent of children and young people between the ages of 12 and 17 in Germany” meet the criteria for addictive behavior in their use of social media, according to the latest figures. This was published by health insurance provider DAK on its website in summer 2024. The risk of depression has also increased and is associated with an addiction to social media. But what does this mean?

It is important to note that social media addiction is not yet a registered disease or disorder. We can therefore only observe behavior that is similar to other addictions such as computer game addiction. And as always, this behavior is more complex than it seems at first glance. It’s not just about how much time children and young people spend on social media, but how they feel about it. An addiction in the classic sense is only present when people show several criteria of addictive behavior over a long period of time. These criteria can be, for example

  • Very strong desire for social media
  • Use of social media to counteract negative sentiment
  • Loss of control
  • Withdrawal symptoms
  • Inability to break the habit of social media
  • Withdrawal from social life

In most cases, addictions do not arise solely because an addictive substance such as social media is present. Rather, they are linked to other causes, such as problems in the family, socially difficult situations, personal setbacks or psychological problems.

What can parents do (beforehand)?

Anyone who notices addictive behavior in their child over a period of months and is becoming increasingly distressed should seek help urgently. For you as parents, however, the worries often start much earlier – and it also makes sense to take preventative action on this topic at an early stage:

  • Stay in close contact with your child right from the start. Talk to your child about their issues and concerns – whether they are media-related or not – before they develop into real problems.
  • Be attentive, observe your child’s behavior and respond to their concerns with understanding and interest – this will increase the likelihood of open and honest conversations.
  • Show interest and understanding that social media is important for your child – and also express your concerns openly and objectively.
  • Establish common media rules for the whole family and set limits on media use.

Seek help if you are very worried about your child’s behavior. Contact your pediatrician’s or family doctor’s office, school social work, counseling centers such as the Nummer gegen Kummer or addiction counseling centers.

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