Whether in social media clips, memes and comments or in group chats such as Telegram: Children and young people encounter many opinions on the internet. At first glance, some content seems funny, exciting or harmless. However, there may be extreme messages behind it.
Extremist groups use such channels specifically to reach young people. They give simple answers to difficult questions, convey extreme role models and stir up hatred against certain people or groups. Such content can fascinate and influence young people precisely because it often appears entertaining or close to their world and language.
If your child suddenly makes very harsh statements, stay as calm as possible. An immediate ban or an angry argument can cause your child to shut down. Ask questions. For example: “Who said that?”, “Where did you see that?” or “What do you find convincing about it?”. This will help you find out more about the source and show your child: I’m interested in you, not just your opinion.
Online games, Discord or Twitch can also be places where extreme groups make contact. So don’t just ask: “What do you play?”, but also: “Who do you write with there?” and “Are there any groups in which you are active?”
It is important not to simply let extreme statements stand. Say clearly when a statement devalues others, threatens or is misanthropic and explain to your child why hate speech can be hurtful and dangerous. But keep the conversation going. Your child should realize: My parents disagree with me, but they still listen to me.
Look at the content together. Who made the video? What feelings is it intended to trigger? Disinformation in particular often works with strong feelings, half-truths or invented claims. Children can learn to recognize such patterns. Simple questions such as “Can this be true?”, “Who benefits from this?” or “Is there a second source?” can help.
Also talk about algorithms. If your child watches, shares or comments on a video for a long time, they will often be shown more similar content. Together you can unfollow channels, report content, delete search histories or reset recommendations. Also use reporting, blocking and parental control settings and make your child’s devices safer. These measures do not provide complete protection, but they can help.
The good news is that you as parents can do a lot before things get serious: A trusting relationship, open conversations and a genuine interest in your child’s world are important. Ask what topics, influencers, games, groups or channels your child is currently interested in – without immediately judging or banning them.
Talk regularly about media content: What values are conveyed? Consciously show your child a variety of books, series, games, social media channels and role models that make different lifestyles, family constellations, gender roles and opinions visible.
Get help when things get more serious
If you notice that your child is becoming very withdrawn, only consumes extreme content, spreads hatred or has contact with radical groups, get help. Contact advice centers, hotlines or, in serious cases, the police. You don’t have to be alone.
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