News about war, violence and armed conflicts shake us all. What adults often find hard to comprehend is usually even harder for children to understand. Keeping children away from the latest news is almost impossible. This makes it all the more important to accompany children and give them security. We provide suggestions for dealing with stressful news and present media formats suitable for children on this topic.
Children often get more than adults think. It is therefore important to take their questions seriously and respond to their feelings. If children can talk about their worries, it helps them to process the experience better. Comfort your child and show them closeness, for example by giving them a hug – this provides security in difficult moments.
Younger children process things that occupy them in play or by drawing a picture. If your child doesn’t do it on their own, you can encourage them to do it and join in. Expressing yourself in pictures or text can also be a great way for older children and teens. But conversations and concrete information are also important for them. Show your child age-appropriate offerings and alert him or her to possible misinformation. Encourage your child to show you if they are sent scary pictures and videos via social media or Messenger and talk to them about it.
When children hear news about war, it can make them feel insecure. Younger children especially need the reassuring message that they are safe and that adults care about their protection. Explain to your child that the war is far away and that many people and organizations are working to create peace. Show your child that they are not completely helpless, but that there are ways to do something good. Think together about how you can help, for example by organizing a fundraising campaign or taking part in a peace project at school or in the neighbourhood. This will show your child that you don’t just have to be afraid in difficult situations, but that you can contribute something yourself.
Even as an adult, you have the right to be overwhelmed with the situation and the news. You do not have to be able to answer all the questions. Be honest with your child and show your ignorance or feelings in connection with the events in war zones. It is important that you do not avoid the topic.
In our article “News for children and young people” you will find tips on how to deal with news in general and links to age-appropriate offers.
We recommend the following formats for parents and children on the subject of armed conflicts and war:
Even if stressful news is unsettling, you can give your child security and guidance with attention, closeness, open conversations and access to age-appropriate news formats.
