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17.01.2025

Too old for children’s sites – too young for adult offerings

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Too old for the children’s program, but still too young for the social media world? There is a time when your child doesn’t really know his place. It’s somewhere between childhood and adolescence. This affects many of the so-called “pre-teens”, the approximately 9-12 year olds. They are in a transition phase, which is also reflected in their media usage.

For younger children, there are many age-appropriate offerings such as children’s apps, radio plays and children’s programs. As children get older, they are often no longer so interested in these – and turn directly to the adult world of media. The jump is quite big and the offer can still partly overwhelm your child.

An important developmental phase for your child

At the onset of puberty, your child is on the cusp of becoming an adolescent. In some things it still behaves childlike, in others it already wants to separate itself from you. It is increasingly oriented to elders and to people, trends and ideas outside the family. As a result, there is less and less interest in children’s media.

During this phase, many children get their first smartphone and immerse themselves more and more independently in the world of online media. They have their first experiences in online games and on social media platforms. They follow stars such as influencers and streamers, interact with other users and develop their own identity. Pre-teens often lack an understanding of how to handle their own data or challenges such as communication risks online.

What you should pay attention to as a parent

Whether your child still wants to watch children’s programs or is already interested in computer games, social media or TV shows for older children – support your child according to their stage of development and give them the time they need.

Gradually, you should relinquish control and support your child in being able to use media independently, safely and responsibly. Although your child has already gained some experience, he or she will still approach many things with an open mind, which means that they can easily come into contact with content that is harmful to minors online. Your child’s curiosity and desire to increasingly set themselves apart from adults will also lead them to seek out provocative content. Nevertheless, as parents, you still have an important role to play in providing guidance during the transition phase. Always talk to your child and ask about their media experiences.

Offers for the transition phase

Finding offers for pre-teens is not that easy and not every child will be interested. For computer games and films, there are age ratings from the Voluntary Self-Regulation Body. They indicate whether the content is unproblematic for development from a certain age. If you take a closer look, there are media offerings tailored to children in the transition phase both in traditional media and online.

Here are a few recommendations:

  • Films, series and video clips: Our article on educational film recommendations presents various film portals. One example is Flimmothe program guide for parents. Here you will also find educational assessments of popular channels on YouTube, TikTok and Instagram.
  • Games: The NRW games guide has taken a close look at many computer games and game apps and rated them pedagogically. You can search for suitable games for your child here.
  • Podcasts: Whether audio stories or cultural talk – podcasts are very much in vogue. In two articles, we present recommended podcasts for children and young people.
  • Search engines: In the article Search engines for children and young people, we present children’s search engines such as fragFINN for example. We explain how children can use adult search engines safely with the help of parental control filters.
  • Info platforms: Hanisauland actively and playfully introduces children and young people to politics. Handysektor deals with young people’s media issues and addresses them directly in clips and articles. Juuuport informs young users about online risks and offers free digital advice.
  • Online communities: Knipsclub is a photo community that offers a safe introduction to the world of social media. On kindersache registered users can contribute their own videos, jokes and stories.

You should also allow your child to take advantage of offerings that are not specifically for children. Find out about programs and content in advance. When you watch a movie, play a game or surf the Internet together as a family, your child has the opportunity to ask questions and you can see how he or she copes with certain content.

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