Meta AI is a new digital assistant from Meta, the company behind Facebook, Instagram and WhatsApp. Without a separate app, young people can now access artificial intelligence directly via chat or search – for learning, chatting or collecting ideas. The question for parents is: how does it work – and is it safe?
Meta AI has been officially available in Germany since March 2025. A blue circle with a sparkling pattern signals access to AI-supported chats – directly in WhatsApp, Instagram, Facebook or Messenger. A separate app is not required. The text-based assistant responds to questions, gives tips and suggests content. Meta AI is also integrated into the search bar on Instagram and Facebook. This can lead to users interacting with the AI unintentionally.
Many young people experience Meta AI as practical support in everyday life. The AI is available exactly where they are anyway – on WhatsApp or Instagram. It provides quick answers to school questions, helps with translations, writes texts or makes suggestions for posts and content. The AI is friendly, approachable and helpful, almost like a conversation partner.
Especially in comparison to more complex AI offerings such as ChatGPT or Perplexity AI – which specify sources or require special user knowledge – Meta AI has a much lower-threshold and more familiar effect because it appears directly in the familiar Allatgs apps. Many young people also try out Meta AI because they talk about it with their friends or share content.
Meta emphasizes that no private messages or data from minors in Europe are used for training. According to Meta, public content is accessed within the framework of applicable data protection laws. In the EU, users must actively object if they do not want their content to be used for AI training. However, data protectionists criticize the fact that there is no active consent.
Parents can best protect and empower their children if they stay in conversation and reflect together on how AI works.
A minimum age of 13 years is required to use Meta AI, or even 16 depending on the app, but there is no automatic age check. Talk to your child about these age limits too
Friendships are an important part of the lives of children and young people. At some point, they fall in love for the first time. Then a chat on WhatsApp suddenly turns into something more or a contact on Instagram becomes particularly exciting. Many young people today flirt digitally – with known contacts or new acquaintances. They use the usual social media platforms and messengers, but also special apps. We show what parents should know.
Young people usually start on platforms that they already use every day: WhatsApp, Instagram, Snapchat or TikTok. These apps are used for writing, responding, posting – and also for flirting. People follow each other, respond to stories or pictures, send voice messages or emojis. This can quickly turn friendship into something more.
From around the age of 15, some young people are also interested in dating apps. However, the selection of apps specifically for teenagers is limited – and often problematic:
Adult dating apps such as Tinder, Bumble, Lovoo or queer-friendly apps such as OKCupid are not permitted for young people (minimum age according to the terms and conditions is usually 18). Nevertheless, minors can also be found there, usually without age verification by the providers. The playful functionality (profile picture + swipe) is particularly appealing to young users.
It is easy to present yourself differently or provide false information online. Especially when getting to know someone via apps or social networks, there is a risk that:
Superficial evaluation via the swipe function can have a negative impact on self-esteem. This is a particularly sensitive issue in the teenage years.
When talking to your child, remain open, trusting and non-accusatory. It is important to develop rules and knowledge together:
Some teenagers don’t like talking to parents about feelings or flirting. In this case, youth-oriented sites like
Google search provides a direct summary of the results, a purple circle on WhatsApp invites questions and conversations and the My AI chatbot pushes its way between contacts on Snapchat. AI services and tools no longer have to be accessed via dedicated apps or websites, but are now integrated into search engines, messengers and social networks. This means that these applications are part of our everyday lives without us even having to become active. This can be helpful, but it also has its pitfalls, especially for young users.
AI, or artificial intelligence, refers to programs and systems that imitate the way the human brain absorbs, processes and outputs information. -On the basis of ever more training data, they process tasks that we humans set them. AI applications have long been developed and used in many areas such as medicine and industry. Since the end of 2022, AI applications have been coming more and more directly to us: That’s when the chatbot ChatGPT was made available to the public free of charge. This is generative AI. This is a technology in which computer systems are trained to generate “new” content synthetically, for example text, images, video or audio content. Since then, AI offerings have become widespread and have also become part of the everyday lives of children and young people. They search for information (similar to search engines), have images created, questions answered and have conversations that almost feel like human communication – but are not.
New developments at the beginning of 2025 show how present AI has become:
For children and young people, AI tools often offer practical help in everyday life as well as fun and entertainment:
The use of cell phones, tablets and the like is a frequent topic of contention in many families. You are probably familiar with the discussions about how long your child is allowed to play or surf. Many parents worry that it’s unhealthy for their child to spend too much time with digital media. But when is too much too much and how do you recognize when an addiction is developing?
In addition to the fun factor, psychological mechanisms are what make media so captivating. Many games and apps have no clear end – children can theoretically play on endlessly. Increasing challenges awaken ambition to reach the next level and make it difficult to switch off.
It is similar with messenger services and social media offerings. We are always available via WhatsApp, Instagram, Snapchat and the like and can communicate with others quickly and easily at any time. Social networks are specially designed to keep us on the platform for a long time by constantly showing us new content as we scroll through the feed. There are also small built-in rewards that make us happy for a moment and encourage us to keep going. For example, if your child posts a picture on Instagram and receives likes and positive comments, this acts as a social reward. It activates the same areas in the brain as eating candy or taking drugs.
When children spend a lot of time with media, the topic of “addiction” quickly comes up as a scenario for parents. However, it is important to take a closer look at what “addiction” actually means – because long periods of use alone do not make an addiction. Intensive use in phases – such as during puberty – is normal. However, if your child’s behavior becomes conspicuous over a longer period of time, it is worth taking a closer look and reacting if necessary.
There are clear criteria for an actual addiction that you can use as a guide:
If you observe such things, you should become aware and seek help.
It is important to know that “media addiction” itself is not a medical term. In the ICD, the International Classification of Diseases, the section on “(Excessive) media use” describes what gaming, chatting and surfing can look like in the case of excessive use. Excessive media use is also recognized and treated as a “behavioral addiction”. According to a study, around 600,000 children were affected by such behavioral addiction in 2023.
However, since media addiction is more than just a lot of screen time, dealing with it must also be more complex. Reducing media time is a good first step, but it is not enough because not only the symptoms, but also the reasons are often diverse and not exclusively related to the media.
The most important thing is therefore to stay in contact with your child. Observe them, take an interest in their everyday life and ask questions – even before there is a problem. Talk about what media your child uses and why. Show an interest in their favorite games or videos, ask which platforms they use and what’s so great about them. Explain to your child how platforms like TikTok work to keep users with them for as long as possible.
Agree fixed media times and rules together – but also look for other factors that can encourage problematic media behavior. Offer to talk to your child if there are conflicts among friends or in the club or if school is stressful and look together for solutions and strategies to make everyday life balanced and varied. Be a role model yourself in your own media use and everyday life.
If you don’t know what to do and your child’s problematic behavior continues, take action. Find out together whether there may be other reasons behind the constant media use and how you can find solutions. Seek outside help. As a first point of contact, you can talk to the liaison teachers at your child’s school or pediatricians. You can also call the Nummer gegen Kummer, contact a digital counseling platform or an addiction counseling center.
With media, children can learn, be creative, relax and have fun. It is important for children of primary school age and above to develop a conscious and increasingly independent approach to media. As parents, you are responsible for ensuring that media consumption does not get out of hand. Common rules for media use in the family are helpful.
Children of primary school age need clear rules. They provide security and help them to use media consciously. Agree these together with your child:
Children accept rules better if they are allowed to help decide. Think together about what makes sense – and what happens if a rule is broken. A media usage agreement can help to record everything. Be careful not to use media bans as leverage.
Adapt the media rules to your child’s stage of development. From adolescence, for example, fixed media times can be gradually abolished. Nevertheless, there should be rules about which media may be used for which purposes, for example with their first smartphone. Accompaniment by parents is still important in adolescence. Talk to your child about his or her media use. Ask how and why it uses what and how it copes with it. Always be available if there are any problems.
Games are particularly fascinating for many children – but they also pose challenges. Establish clear rules forcomputergames together:
Media time rules are often difficult to enforce – technical aids can help. Parental control functions in operating systems, settings in devices, apps and games as well as parental control apps help to comply with time limits and break times and to filter content. However, your child should gradually learn to put the smartphone or tablet aside by itself after the screen time is over. In this way, they practice and internalize a conscious approach to media.
Younger children should only install new apps and computer games together with their parents. As they get older, you can gradually give your child more responsibility and adjust the technical settings to suit their age.
Sooner or later, many parents hear: “Everyone else already has a smartphone/plays a console/may use TikTok!” Don’t let this put you under pressure. Children compare themselves, but every child is different. Explain your decisions to your child and involve them in an age-appropriate way. Your child will be increasingly influenced by friends at school age. It can help to talk to other parents and agree on common ground rules with classmates or friends.
As a parent, you are an important guide for your child. Therefore, be aware of your role model function – also with regard to media use. Certain rules should apply to everyone. For example, you can agree that smartphones have no place at mealtimes or set up smartphone-free family days.
Instead of simply regulating media use, it is worth consciously creating shared media experiences. A weekly movie night with the family or listening to music together at the weekend strengthens family cohesion and at the same time offers opportunities to talk about content, discover media preferences and convey values.
Snapchat is a free social media and chat app for sharing photos and short videos (snaps) and messages. What makes it special is that the content is only visible for a short time and then disappears automatically.
Snapchat allows users to send photos and short videos to contacts as messages or stories. These snaps are only visible for up to 24 hours and then “self-destruct”. The photos and videos can be edited with countless filters and effects. In addition to private stories from friends, there is also content from stars and brands. Snapchat is characterized by a wide range of functions:
In addition to the free version, Snapchat also offers Snapchat+ as a paid add-on. This allows children and young people to test new, not yet officially released functions in a kind of premium version – such as additional design options, more information about story views or new options for designing their avatar, the so-called “BitMoji”.
The app is one of the most popular applications among teenagers aged 13 and older. Teenagers love to use Snapchat to communicate with their friends. For this purpose, images and videos are simply sent instead of text. The use of fun filters, videos that can be accompanied by music and even disappearing messages are what make the app so appealing. Snapchat appears more youthful and playful than Instagram, for example. Communication seems more private to young people, as content is only exchanged with individual contacts or in groups. People are shown as avatars on the “Snap Map”, which makes it look like a game.
The content on Snapchat does not disappear completely, but is simply no longer directly visible after a certain period of time. However, with a little technical knowledge, they can be restored to the device. Images can also be easily saved using a screenshot or screen recording. Although the sender usually receives a notification about this, this can also be avoided with certain tricks.
It can be problematic when children and young people send very personal or even intimate images and videos – these could be used against them in cyberbullying, for example. As a lot of content is sent on a daily basis, it is difficult to control. It is therefore important that users know how to block contacts or report content, especially unwanted messages. The “Snap Map”, which updates your location every time you open the app, is also critical – this makes it easy to draw conclusions about your place of residence, school or hobbies.
Certain content can also be problematic for children and young people. This includes images that are not age-appropriate as well as inappropriate advertising or snaps of brands and products.
Snapchat has a reward system with emojis. Small symbols appear next to the names of contacts to show how close a friend you are with someone. For example, a flame with a number means how many days in a row you have sent snaps to each other. According to the latest JIM study, one in three young people collect Snapchat flames every day. Such emojis can put pressure on children and young people to send pictures every day in order to “maintain” friendships in the app.
According to the terms and conditions of the provider Snap Inc., the use of Snapchat is only permitted for young people aged 13 and over with their parents’ permission. However, there is no technical verification of the age information.
The distribution of adult content (e.g. pornography) is prohibited. Minors may not post or send nude images or sexually suggestive content. Violations can be reported via the Snapchat Safety Center. Users can block and report others; violations of the Snapchat guidelines are reviewed by Snapchat content moderators.
According to its privacy policy, Snapchat collects a lot of data from its users, including when they use AI services such as My AI. According to the provider, the data is transmitted in encrypted form, but can be used for personalized advertising and analysis purposes and passed on to third-party providers.
Parents can use various control functions in the app via the “Family Center”.
If your child wants to use Snapchat, talk together about possible communication risks such as unwanted contacts. Go through the privacy settings together and clarify that sent pictures can be saved as screenshots. Your child should only add people they really know. The youth website Handysektor provides a good overview.
Talk to your child about the Snap Map: What are the consequences of having their location visible – and is it really necessary? The location is often shared automatically when the app is opened. This can be prevented in “ghost mode” or by revoking location sharing. If a contact uses Snapchat+, special attention should be paid to deactivating the tracking function or blocking the person if necessary.
The emoji reward system can make your child want to be online all the time – for fear of missing out(FOMO) or losing friendships. Talk to your child about this and encourage them to maintain friendships in real life and independently of apps like Snapchat.
In consultation with your child, use the control functions via the Snapchat Family Center. There you can, for example, get an overview of your child’s activities and make settings such as setting up content controls in the app or deactivating the My AI chatbot. A separate Snapchat account is required to connect to your child’s account. Your child must consent to the connection themselves. In the Snapchat Family Safety Hub you will find compact information, videos and guides on functions such as Snap Map, safety settings and age ratings.
Your child plays digital games – on the computer, console or smartphone. But what do you need to bear in mind when choosing games and what helps you find your way around? This virtual parents’ evening is all about games, youth protection, age ratings and what they mean for families. Together with the Entertainment Software Self-Regulation Body (USK), we will explain how age ratings for games work and what parents should pay particular attention to in order to play games safely. You will also receive practical tips on how to make everyday family life with digital games safe.
Take the opportunity to be there live and ask your questions to our experts – we will be on hand to exchange ideas and provide valuable inspiration for everyday family life!
Date: 17.09.2025 | Time: 5 to 6 pm
Speakers: Melanie Endler and Maurice Matthieu (USK)
Moderation: FSM e.V.
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Many children get their own smartphone during their primary school years. With it, they can do different things and have access to the Internet. In addition to many great opportunities, however, it also exposes children to risks. It is particularly important that you talk to your child about possible dangers and make safety settings on the smartphone together.
Without your child realizing it, he or she is leaving data trails by using a messenger and other apps, as well as by surfing the web. Explain to your child the various smartphone functions and how to set them sensibly: WLAN, Bluetooth and location should remain switched off by default and only be activated when absolutely necessary. For example, GPS is necessary if your child is looking for directions to a specific location using a map app. Check the app permissions in the settings together with your child. For example, you can avoid apps accessing the camera without reason or sharing data with other devices and networks. Educate your child about online scams, such as spam emails or phishing. Additional security is provided by virus scanner apps that can protect against unwanted viruses and dangers such as data theft, subscription traps or fake offers.
It is important to use codes and passwords to ensure secure use of the device and apps. Your child’s cell phone should only be used after entering a code (PIN, swipe code, etc.) to prevent strangers from accessing personal data. Set up secure password protection with your child. This also applies to registration with social media services and apps. Secure passwords consist of at least twelve characters and contain special characters and numbers in addition to letters. Depending on the device, your child’s fingerprint can also be used to unlock the device (e.g. Touch ID on iOS). Tips for creating secure passwords are available – e.g. at Handysektor. For younger children, it is recommended that at least one parent also knows the screen lock combination and password.
Security and parental control settings can be made on every smartphone in the settings. Detailed information on this can be found, among other things, in the article on technical youth media protection.
On Android, you can block the installation of apps in the Play Store or set a password for installation or in-app purchases. To do this, activate the parental control settings. You can choose which apps your child can install without a password.
iOS devices offer even more options in their own device settings. Under Screen Time you have the option to set restrictions and assign a separate code for them. You can then, for example, allow or block the use of certain apps and restrict in-app purchases with a password. Movies, music, apps and TV shows with a higher age rating can also be blocked automatically. iOS can automatically filter and hide web content in Safari and apps.
Additional apps are also recommended:
To avoid cost traps, a tariff with a limited data volume can be useful. Make sure you also make certain settings for your child’s privacy and safety on social media apps and use Instagram safely, for example. Here you can specifically regulate the visibility of your child’s profile and the basic contact options. Some platforms offer a safer alternative mode for minors – e.g. the accompanied mode on TikTok.
We also recommend installing the fragFINN app. This children’s search engine offers a protected surfing area with tested websites. This way you can ensure that your child can only access age-appropriate and safe content, both for school research and for leisure activities.
For more information on safe smartphone settings, it’s worth visiting medien-kindersicher.de. Here you will find helpful, technical protection solutions for all your child’s devices, services and apps explained step by step.
Also remember to carry out regular software updates on your child’s smartphone to close security gaps and minimize the risk of viruses, for example
Smartphones come with some features to make chatting, surfing the web and using apps safer for your child. However, these settings on the device or parental control apps are no substitute for parental supervision. Your child should always understand why certain websites or apps should be blocked or why GPS tracking should remain deactivated. Also, always base your control and safety on your child’s age and development. Especially with teens, don’t intrude too much on your child’s privacy. However, always try to stay in conversation with your child and be there as a point of contact for questions or uncertainties.
Minecraft Legends is an action-packed strategy game in which players lead an army of different creatures to defend the beautiful island world from the hostile pig creatures. The game is designed for planning, resource management and tactical battles and appeals to experienced children and young people.
Minecraft Legends is a real-time strategy game from the Minecraft-universe. The game world is built from the familiar Minecraft blocks. However, the gameplay is more focused on tactics and teamwork than the classic Minecraft building and exploration. The spin-off game particularly appeals to players who enjoy a mixture of strategy and action.
Minecraft Legends offers both a single-player and a multiplayer mode.
Players take on the role of heroes and lead an army of different Minecraft creatures on their mounts. The aim is to protect the overworld from the threat of the “Piglins” (hostile pig creatures) from the underworld. Players liberate villages, build castles and walls and destroy enemy fortresses. To do this, they must collect resources and make strategic decisions to fend off the enemy hordes.
Minecraft Legends is popular with children and young people because it takes elements from the popular Minecraft universe and turns them into an exciting and accessible strategy game. Players act in a familiar world and play with the familiar Minecraft block creatures. At the same time, they use their creativity and strategic skills to defeat the enemy Piglins. The ability to take on opponents in epic battles and cooperate with friends makes it a fun multiplayer experience. At the same time, the game offers enough depth to keep players hooked. The mix of adventure, teamwork and tactical challenges is particularly appealing to experienced Minecraft and strategy players.
The mixture of real-time strategy and action is a playful challenge and can be particularly overwhelming for younger players. As there are neither detailed instructions nor a clear learning path for how to proceed, access is rather difficult for beginners. The strategic elements require tactical thinking and well thought-out planning. The fast-paced battle with the Piglins is sometimes so challenging that it can frustrate inexperienced players.
Minecraft Legends offers single-player content, but places a strong focus on multiplayer mode. Children and young people can use it to get in contact with other players and are confronted with communication risks. The violence in the game is presented in a classic Minecraft setting and does not contain any brutal depictions. Nevertheless, the frequent confrontation with opponents could be unpleasant or unsettling for sensitive children. Minecraft Legends features a marketplace where additional skins and mounts can be purchased for real money. There are also paid seasonal expansions (DLC).
The privacy policy and terms of use are available in German on the Minecraft website. Data is adequately protected in compliance with the GDPR.
Minecraft Legends is linked to a Microsoft account that parents can use to set up parental controls.
Minecraft Legends is a complex game that is particularly suitable for experienced children and young people aged 12 and over. Make sure you offer your child age-appropriate games and agree on clear rules for using games in the family.
The game can present some challenges. Although the violence in Minecraft Legends is presented in a more child-friendly way, the game contains many warlike elements. Watch your child to see how they cope with the conflicts and battles in the game and be there to support them.
Technical protective measures can help to make your child’s gaming experience safer. Various functions can be set via the parental controls in the Microsoft account:
You can find more information about the Microsoft account settings at medien-kindersicher.de
Does your child watch older siblings or friends use social media every day? Perhaps they are already interested in platforms such as Instagram, TikTok and the like? Social media apps place high demands on the media skills of young users. This is exactly where the new NYZZU app comes in: It has been specially developed for children, young people and families. It aims to offer a protected space that focuses on privacy, safety and responsible media use.
NYZZU is a social network where users can take their first steps in digital networks – age-appropriate and without overwhelming content.
Similar to other well-known platforms, users share photos and videos with their contacts. Liking and commenting on posts is also possible. Unlike other apps, NYZZU does not use algorithms. The posts in the feed appear in chronological order. This allows users to keep track of what their friends are posting and when. Content can be shared with several people in groups. There is no classic chat function.
Security and data protection have top priority at NYZZU: friendships can only be made between people who have saved each other in their address book. This protective mechanism is designed to prevent children from interacting with unwanted contacts. Personal content can be shared “privately” between two people or made visible to mutual friends. All posts can also be deleted at any time. The screenshot function is deactivated to prevent content from spreading beyond the app.
NYZZU takes on many of the functions of traditional social media and yet differs from them. The new app does not focus on the most popular or viral content, but on everyday, personal posts from normal life. A Like on NYZZU can have a greater meaning for children and young people than on other platforms, as it is less about public recognition and more about sharing with friends and family. The absence of algorithms and influencers reduces pressure and the potential for addiction.
Children and young people can use the app as a digital photo album in which they can share their experiences and memories. Adding filters and music to photos and videos makes NYZZU a creative space that is fun for children and young people.
“Respect your friendship” – it is particularly important to the founders of NYZZU to create a safe space in which friends and family members of all ages can stay in contact with each other safely. On its website, NYZZU’s code of conduct clearly opposes bullying, discrimination and abuse. The NYZZU Codex explains potential communication risks and refers to digital counseling services.
NYZZU follows the principle of “Safety by Design”. Safety settings such as follower requests are activated by default. Inappropriate posts can be reported directly via a reporting function. The design of the website, including the terms and conditions, the codex and the privacy policy, are youth-friendly.
Children under the age of 13 require parental consent to use the app. When registering, the parents’ e-mail address must be provided and the registration confirmed via a link. NYZZU is part of the Seitenstark network as a high-quality and child-friendly online service.
If your child will soon be getting their first smartphone, NYZZU could be a suitable app to get them started. Register together with your child and set rules for use together. Make sure that no sensitive or personal data is shared when creating the profile.
Show your child where they can find safety functions such as the reporting function and how they can use them. Also talk to your child about challenges such as communication risks like hate speech. Educate your child about privacy online and make them understand which personal data they should not share.
To ensure that your child can actively use NYZZU, it is advisable to talk about the app with friends, family and other parents. Although other social media apps are also very popular, you can lead by example and try out alternative apps like NYZZU together with your child. And if you like it: invite others to join in!
Social media and messenger apps such as Instagram, TikTok, WhatsApp and Snapchat are particularly popular with young people. This is where they post articles, network and discuss topics that concern them. Of course, not everyone always agrees on every topic. Just like in real life, conflicts, discussions and misunderstandings also occur between young people on the internet. Most of the time, this is harmless and there is no need for you as parents to worry. However, the internet also brings new challenges: Some discussions can get out of hand and turn into deliberate hostility or hate speech.
The internet can help to lower the inhibition thresholds for insults, hatred and discrimination. Many people are quicker to write derogatory or hurtful things online that they would never say in person. Protected by anonymity and distance, they often forget that there are real people on the other side.
Hate speech can take many forms. It is often directed against entire groups – such as people with a different skin color, religion, sexual orientation or origin.
Typical characteristics of hate speech are: derogatory language or insults, calls for exclusion or violence or the spread of misanthropic ideologies.
While cyberbullying usually targets a specific person, hate speech often affects entire population groups.
Important to know: Hate comments can not only be offensive, but also punishable by law. No-hate-speech.de explains clearly which forms of hate speech can violate the law.
Not every hate message online is immediately recognizable. Extremist groups often use so-called secret signs and terms that appear harmless to outsiders but send clear messages in certain circles.
Dog whistling means sending a message that only insiders can understand – just as a dog whistle can only be heard by dogs. On the internet, dog whistling is used to spread radical or extremist content without openly violating platform rules or laws. This makes it harder to immediately recognize hate and hate speech.
Watch out for unusual terms, emojis or hashtags popping up. Typical examples are:
You can find more examples in the article “Geheime Codes von Rechtsextremen online” (Campact) or in the YouTube video “Dog Whistling erklärt” (Berliner Register).
Of course, there doesn’t have to be malicious intent behind every unusual symbol. Nevertheless, it is worth taking a closer look at strange symbols or terms together with young people and asking questions.
Talk about hate speech. Talk to your child about online discrimination and its consequences. Young people often close themselves off if they are affected themselves and are insulted or hostile online. If it is common practice in your home to talk openly about everything, your child will be more likely to turn to you in confidence if the worst comes to the worst. Topics for discussion could be What is respectful behavior? How does hate speech feel for those affected? How can you defend yourself against hate online?
Important: The same rules should apply online as in real life – fairness, openness and appreciation.
Offer support. Let your child know that they are not alone when they experience hate online. Listen and take your child seriously.
Save evidence by taking screenshots of offensive comments or messages. Many platforms have functions for reporting hate messages – either directly in the app or via special contact points that deal with problematic content online. If necessary, advice centers or online portals can help.
Take an active stand against hate. Hate online should not simply be accepted. Young people can learn: to support those affected by making friendly comments, to report hate messages and to take a stand with respectful counter-speech (without putting themselves at risk). Projects such as #NichtEgal help young people to show civil courage online and promote a positive culture of discussion.
They have been around since the turn of the millennium – but they have only become an integral part of everyday life in recent years, especially since the coronavirus pandemic: podcasts. Almost half of people in Germany regularly listen to podcasts – young people even more than adults. Many formats are aimed specifically at young people, others more at adults.
Podcasts are audio broadcasts that you can listen to or subscribe to online – similar to radio broadcasts, but more flexible: you can listen to them anytime and anywhere. The name is made up of “pod” (playable on demand) and “cast” (broadcast).
In addition to classic audio podcasts, there are also video podcasts or formats that combine both. Most podcasts appear regularly in series form – with a fixed topic, such as sport, culture or news. Sometimes the episodes are self-contained, sometimes they build on each other.
Audio formats are practical: they are easy to listen to on the go and can quickly relieve boredom. There are podcasts in which people talk casually about their everyday lives or “God and the world” – and others that deal specifically with certain topics. Many young people like podcasts because they are both entertaining and informative. Listening to podcasts often creates the feeling of being particularly close to the podcasters – especially when they talk about personal things. This sometimes has a similar effect to influencers on social media.
There are many podcasts that are deliberately made for young people and are dedicated to youth topics. Often, the “hosts” (i.e. the people who lead through the podcast) are very much in the foreground. Young people then listen not only because of the content, but above all because of the person, for example when influencers have their own podcasts. Podcasts such as “Dick & Doof“, “Hobbylos” or “Gemischtes Hack” are very popular with young people. But true crime podcasts are also popular, i.e. formats in which real criminal cases are told, such as in “Mordlust” or “ZEIT Verbrechen“.
Unlike videos or games, podcasts do not yet have to be labeled with an age rating in order to protect minors. Labelling has long been considered, but the sheer number of podcasts makes it difficult to implement. So anyone can produce and publish a podcast – with any content. Therefore, regularly ask what podcasts your child listens to and find out about them.
Another point: Many podcasts contain advertising – it is often spoken directly by the hosts and is not always clearly recognizable. Advertising can have an influence, especially on young people. Many podcasts are financed by advertising.
In addition, platforms such as Spotify, Apple Podcasts or Deezer automatically suggest new content based on listening behavior. Not all suggested formats are age-appropriate. Keep a watchful eye – or discover suitable content together with your child.
Podcasts aimed specifically at young people are usually ad-free, have an age recommendation and deal with topics that interest young people. But there are definitely podcasts that don’t have a specific age recommendation, but are still well suited for teens. Here are a few tips:
You can find more tips for podcasts for young people at Webhelm and the city magazine Känguru.
Whether in series and manga, in video games and social media or in the world of celebrities – young people encounter figures and characters everywhere that inspire them. Whether superheroes like Spider Man, game characters like Ahri, anime characters like Levi Ackerman or stars like Billie Eilish – teenagers regard a wide variety of media figures as their role models and look up to them.
Do you remember how enthusiastically your child told you about his favorite characters from movies and television a few years ago? From an early age, children are guided by their favorite media characters. Young people also look for role models not only in their immediate environment of family, friends or clubs, but increasingly in the media offerings they use.
Forming one’s own identity is one of the most important tasks in adolescence. Media content and characters take on important functions for young people. In this way, media role models can help people develop their own values. They can not only offer young people orientation and support, but even inspire them to try out and experiment with different identities and roles. It is character traits such as courage, honesty, loyalty, sincerity and perseverance that go down particularly well with young people. But they are also fascinated by characters who are particularly funny or original or who pursue big goals.
It is particularly important for teenagers to share information about their media idols, which creates a sense of community. Often, clothing, (youth) language or hobbies, but also media use itself, show which media role models they feel close to. Youth cultures, such as e-boys and e-girls, are popular among young people, and by belonging to such currents they also distinguish themselves from one another within their peer group.
In addition to a large number of fictional characters from films, series, games and books, real people from the media world also inspire young people. These can be celebrities from the film and music industry or social media stars. With this variety of media figures, it can happen that one loses the overview. Here are a few examples:
Parents don’t have to like their children’s media idols. Nevertheless, talk to your child about their media heroes. Ask which of their character traits your child particularly likes.
Media also feature figures who are not well suited as role models. They may model problematic behaviors or teach questionable values. Sometimes they reproduce stereotypical gender images, prejudices or clichés that result in a false or incomplete worldview. Media role models play an important role in forming political opinions, but they do not always live up to their responsibility. Young people are particularly susceptible to populism, extremism and disinformation during the orientation phase. This is especially true when such content comes from their favorite influencers. The role model function of internet stars can also become questionable in connection with advertising. For example, when popular influencers promote products, this can sometimes be done indirectly or covertly.
Talk to your child about critical behaviors and clarify stereotypes. Remain neutral and unbiased when asking questions and engage with their world of media role models. Maybe it helps if you remember your own youth and your idols. How did you feel at that time?
TikTok is part of everyday life for many children and young people. They watch short videos, are entertained, get information or post content themselves. Many parents don’t know exactly what they are watching or posting there – and are worried. This makes it all the more important to know the app’s security settings – and to stay in touch.
With the “Accompanied Mode” (also known as “Family Pairing”), TikTok offers the option of controlling certain functions of the app on the child’s account together. These include:
Additional protective functions take effect automatically, depending on the age specified in the profile:
According to the terms of use, TikTok is permitted from the age of 13. Parental consent is required for children under the age of 16.
Tip: Children can also view TikTok in the browser without an account – so they can get started carefully without posting or commenting on content themselves.
Proceed as follows if you want to activate Accompanied mode:
You can adjust these settings
Make sure that your child gives the correct date of birth when registering. Only then will age-appropriate protective measures take effect. Check the data protection settings together and explain why a private account makes sense. Older teenagers should also consider whether they want to show their content publicly.
As a parent, you cannot directly track which videos your child is watching or who they are writing to. Messages or comments are not visible to you – so your child’s privacy is protected as far as possible. This makes mutual trust and the question: Can your child already use media consciously and safely?
Make sure you regularly discuss together whether the settings you have made are still suitable or should be adjusted. Don’t make decisions over your child’s head, but together with them. This will encourage understanding and personal responsibility. Also explain which aspects of the app you view critically and which rules apply to its use in your family.
Keep the conversation going: Ask what ‘s hot on TikTok at the moment, what your child is interested in or which influencers they find exciting. This way you stay close – and your child feels taken seriously.
Remember: TikTok collects data about usage behavior. Talk to your child about how personalized content, advertising and in-app purchases work – and consider together which data protection settings make sense.
You can find more information about TikTok here.
Whether in social media feeds, messengers or podcasts – we are flooded with countless messages, reports and stories online every day. Sometimes it is not so easy to distinguish between truth and deception. Teaching children and young people how to recognize false information on the internet is a real challenge. This article offers practical advice on this and explains how you can talk to your child about it.
Fake news spreads particularly quickly in uncertain times. We humans are already unsettled and even experts and politicians don’t have all the answers – such as during the coronavirus crisis or wars. “Fake news” deliberately spreads rumors or even hateful reports that are intended to stir up fears and deliberately deceive us. They often offer simple explanations and can give the feeling of security. But they are not true.
These fake news items are often so cleverly crafted that they appear to be legitimate news at first glance. People who believe “fake news” share it further, so that more and more people fall for it. The problem with this is that the more often such content is clicked on, the more often it is displayed – and the more people believe it to be true. This can be problematic, especially when it comes to political posts with an extremist or populist background or when conspiracy myths are spread.
Content that can unsettle or frighten younger children in particular is also problematic. Deep fake videos in particular look deceptively real. It is therefore important to understand that not all information on the Internet is true and to know the differences between disinformation, false reports and satire.
Recognizing whether it is actually disinformation or false reports can be a tricky task. Therefore, it is helpful to follow clear steps to curb the spread of disinformation:
Source verification
Check where the message came from and who wrote it. Are the authors well-known and experts on the topic? Is it a reputable website?
Fact check
Try to verify the message with different sources. Ask yourself how up-to-date the information is and check where the figures and data mentioned come from as well as the context in which they were collected.
Checking the message form
Pay attention to the way the message is presented. Is the language serious and factual, or is emotional language and excessive capitalization used? Does the article contain catchwords such as “lying press” or similar provocative terms? Could the article be meant satirically?
Verify evidence
Make sure photos and videos match the message and are up-to-date. Pay attention to captions and whether they actually represent what is being described or are from another context.
Joint fact check
Discuss news and messages together as a family. Your child should understand that not everything on the internet can be sent via WhatsApp or comes from an AI chatbot has to be true. If you check messages together, it can gradually learn to distinguish true from false. Ask for your child’s opinion and share your own thoughts. This way, you and your child can be safer and better prepared to recognize and counteract false information on the Internet.
Here are some tips on where you can check messages and how you and your child can learn how to use them in a fun way:
